I recently received an email from a young woman expressing that she thought about the mission of KinkyJews when her Rabbi was delivering his sermon on Rosh Hashanah.
He said anything you can do to further your involvement in Judaism ( even unconventional things ) is incredibly positive and powerful. It reminded her how important KJ is to our Jewish community. She encouraged me to continue this work- it's daring and taboo- but it's also very meaningful to people who never really felt like they fit in with the way others embrace their Judaism.
Some of you may have heard your Rabbis or Presidents of your synagogues speaking about similar topics. Jews are facing a crisis of continuity and the leadership of Reform and Conservative movements (and others, to a lesser extent) are encouraging pulpit Rabbis and individual communities to push the agenda of radical inclusion more and more.
They talk about reaching out to "non-conventional" Jews, like converts, inter-faith families, LGBT Jews, Jews of different races, and using non traditional methods to reach unaffiliated and disillusioned Jews.
So why not us? Why not Jews who identify with alternative forms of sexual expression? Maybe it's still too taboo, still a little to far out side the lines. But think about it.....
Ten years ago it was completely taboo to embrace the gay community in our synagogues - now most synagogues have groups and programming for them, and professionals and entire organizations and synagogues dedicated to provide services and resources to them - even LGBT Rabbis work at "vanilla" synagogues.
Ten years before that it was unheard of to have a woman on the bimah at all, let alone reading from the Torah - let alone as a Rabbi. It was unfathomable for most. Nowadays, shuls compete to hire female Rabbis and it's a status symbol to have one. Having a female Rabbi has been shown to increase synagogue membership and fund-raising efforts.
(many) Years before that a woman barely had a role in a place of worship at all. There was no such thing as egalitarianism - and the michitzah separating the men and women kept them from participating in any meaningful way. In those days, an attractive michitzah with a view of the ceremony would be way too far outside the lines. Now everywhere I look I see beautiful lace draped over fake plants and guys seductively wrapping their tefillin as they pretends they're not checking me out.
Every few years, the thing that was considered impossibly taboo becomes the trendiest and most in demand item of the day.
I believe that the next wave of change in the Jewish community will be to break down even more traditional boundaries to offer a home to those who exist on the fringes. Not necessarily just for "kinky" Jews in a sexual way, but for all Jews who are "kinky" " in any way. Kinky as in outside of the norm. Each one of them will need to be reached through the path that leads to their particular door.
Based on all of the correspondence I have received over the years, KinkyJews is meeting the needs of so many Jews who would otherwise have no connection at all to a Jewish community. I am so so pleased and honored to provide this conduit.
We are ahead of our time. In the meantime, for those who find no value in participating in the prevailing Jewish community activities, stick with KinkyJews, attend our events in NYC, create your own events and get-togethers - its easy with www.fetlife.com!
Have a sweet and sexy 5771!
.......and don't forget to click on the donation button on the right side of the page to show your support for the only organization dedicated to Jews who identfy with alternative forms of sexual self-expression. Thank you!